Lds dating game
Oates is now engaged, and he said before that his approach was to date as many people as he could at once. “I equate it to a little boy putting 10 different kinds of candy in his mouth at the same time and then trying to figure out which was his favorite.” UVU graduate Greg Vandagriff, 30, said his approach is to pick two or three girls outside his ward and to date them simultaneously.“This can prevent you from being too clingy and invested while shielding you from blowback of ward drama,” he said.Those who choose to look on the bright side may find the difficult wait and heartache also comes with advantages, as maturity and life experiences can play in their favor.
“It took me over a 1,000 dates to find my fiancee, and she and I happened because we were both ready for love, not because we were both looking for love.” Church said people need to be open to getting hurt because it’s part of the process.
Whether it’s by choice or not, groups of “older” LDS adults are still in the running to get married, and their extra years put them in a spot to play a more challenging game than those younger than them.
They attend YSA ward activities, use apps like Tinder or join dating websites.
He said married couples can find many practical incentives to stick with the gospel because they are raising a family, but it can be more challenging for single adults.
This disconnect and feeling of loneliness is felt in moments spent with younger people at YSA ward activities or at church, according to Vandagriff.